The Heart of the Matter
December 15, 2009
Not All There? Says Who?

Twice in the past two days a curious thing happened to me. In separate conversations with two friends at two different times, I was told that two other, mutual friends of ours were "not all there."

After sharing their assessments, each of my friends looked at me as if expecting some kind of acknowledgment about the brilliance of their comments. None was forthcoming. And WHY it wasn't was because I had a completely different experience of the people they were referring to.

"Not all there" was not a phrase I would use to describe these folks. Yes, they were quirky. Yes, they were different. And yes, their "social skills" left something to be desired. But so what? That didn't make them "not all there" -- just refreshingly unique.

Which one of us is so "there" that we have the right or the wisdom to judge another person's "thereness?" None of us. In fact, some of the most "all there" people I know appear to be the "least there" in the eyes of those whose favorite hobby seems to be judging.

"Just not lest ye be judged."


Posted by Mitch Ditkoff at December 15, 2009 12:39 AM


I live with quirky, smart, unusual, great mom, wise woman, no nonsense and little time for B.S. wife. Oh did I say loving too. I just thought you would appreciate the comment and the person.

I believe that it is only those that feel uncomfortable with the off-beat flow of energy that scares the hell out of them. I have learned to love it and drink from its source. There are many quirky characters living here.

Posted by: steve [TypeKey Profile Page] at December 15, 2009 03:35 AM

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